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    SOAr Game


    1. These games are designed for 2-4 players.
    2. Lay out the SOAr instruction cards (green backs) to remind everybody about the techniques.
    3. Shuffle the emotions cards (white backs) into one pile.

    One person will be the "Leader" and use the emotion cards. Everybody else will be a "Responder" using SOAr techniques.

    Game Play

    1. Leader draws an emotion card and shares an "I feel" and "I think" statement laying it next to the Open Question board card.
    2. Responders each ask an Open Question.
    3. Leader answers the each of the responders' open questions.
    4. Leader draws another emotion card and shares "I feel" and "I think" staying on the same subject as the first emotion card, then laying it next to the Appreciation board card.
    5. Responders each share an Appreciation.
    6. Leader goes again, this time with Reflection (staying on same subject).
    7. Responders each share a Reflection.
    8. Finally, Leader goes again, this time with Summary (staying on same subject).
    9. Responders each share a Summary, based on all the emotions the leader shared on the subject in all previous rounds.

    The game ends when the summaries are satisfactory. Leader can ask for summaries to be retried.

    Emotional Frequecy SOAr Game


    1. For 2 players only.
    2. Lay out the entire emotions scale from Shame (-7) to Joy (+7).
    3. Make a pile for each SOAr technique (backs with Joy Coins).

    One person will be the "Leader" and use the emotions scale. The other player will be the "Responder" using SOAr cards.

    Game Play

    1. Both players have a conversation to pick an emotionally challenging topic.
    2. Leader starting with Anger (-2) makes an "I feel" and "I think" statement on the topic.
      • Topic can be around a BEEPS.
    3. Responder can respond with any SOAr technique (except Summary which is used at the end) by placing the card across from Anger.
    4. Leader then moves to Disgust (-3) and makes an "I feel" and "I think" statement staying on the same topic.
    5. Responder repeats step 3.
    6. Rounds continue until Leader completes Shame (-7) and responder uses a SOAr card.
    7. Responder then asks, "What does pride look like...?" based on the topic.
    8. Leader answers the pride question.
    9. Responder uses a SOAr card and places it across from Pride (-1).
    10. Responder continues up the emotions scale asking (questions can be phrased with different variations):
      • "What would Courage (0) look like?"
      • "What would Trust look (+1) like?"
      • "What would Optimism (+2) look like?"
      • Etc... until "What would Peace (+7) look like?
    11. Leader responds each time and Responder uses another SOAr technique placing the card across from the corresponding emotion.
    12. When Peace (+7) round is complete, the Responder finishes with a Summary.

    Optional: Both Leader and Responder can discuss and commit to one courageous action based on any of the positive numbered emotions.