In this TED Talk, Psychologist Susan David shares how the way we deal with our emotions shapes everything that matters: our actions, careers, relationships, health and happiness. In this deeply moving, humorous and potentially life-changing talk, she challenges a culture that prizes positivity over emotional truth and discusses the powerful strategies of emotional agility. We highly encourage everybody to watch it.
The Reasons We Feel Thrilled with this TED Talk
This TED Talk is indeed powerful. And with the risk of turning Susan David into a walking infomercial for our Conversational EQ game, here are some important points worth highlighting.
This was surprising at first, but after consideration, it makes sense. In our experience training others in emotional intelligence, one of the common blocks is this "rigid response" to emotions people have learned. This is addressed by using game dynamics which opens the experience to be fun and engaging.
Here, Susan David is referring to what we call the Corrective Complex, which the common knee jerk reaction to fix, heal, teach, convert and direct. When we are in Corrective Complex, everybody loses joy and can become vulnerable to shame. David goes so far as to refer to it as a "tyranny of positivity."
In Conversational EQ, we teach individuals the skills to process their emotions using emotional intelligence. This leads to emotional regulation.
Playing Conversational EQ expands our emotional vocabularies and increases self-awareness which improves the accuracy of which this refers to. Conversational EQ trains our brains to be aware of and process emotional data appropriately.
Yes, yes, yes! Using emotional intelligence skills, we can make a difference in teams, organizations, families and communities by becoming more agile, resilience and open. For those that re building teams or looking for strategies to support mental health, the gift and power of emotional courage is beyond transformational.